Individual Details
Paul Howard Wilson
(9 Dec 1972 - )
Setting the record straight:
I'm writing this because there may come a time when Jake, Ford or Elaine will want to know more about the sorid picture their father attempted to portry of our family, and their mother in particular, not only in Family Court in August 2006, but with what he's told them over the years.
Your mother is not and never was a prostitute or a drug addict -- she did not live with your grandmother Pam, with Paul and Michael, or with a drug dealer, and did not work as a topless bartender -- all things your father said in Family Court (Aug 2006). It was Paul who was smoking marijuana when we knew him.
Although Ford told the GAL and the psychologist (Pat) about three separate incidents where Michael hit him and/or pulled his hair, Michael stated under oath she had never done those things, "Ford may have gotten in the way when I swung my arms one time . . . "
Here is a copy of an email I sent to Bill Radosevich following the Family Court case:
-----Original Message----- From: Nancy Hawkinson [mailto:nhawk@spacestar.net] Sent: Sunday, August 20, 2006 7:53 AM To: Bill Radosevich Subject: Kari Wilson
Bill, we want to thank you for everything you did to help Kari this summer. Though she may have lost technically, if Paul becomes more involved with the kids, it’s a win situation for them, and hopefully her time with them will also be less stressful.
I really believe she would have stayed here if she had received custody. We had talked about my decision to forgo a four year college scholarship to help my parents. I told her though there were times I had some regrets I would do the same thing again.
She left last evening for Kentucky - her grad school advisor is aware of why she is late.
Regarding the orthodontist - when we made the commitment for Jake’s orthodontic work it was with the knowledge that neither Kari nor Paul & Michael would be able to contribute. We’re comfortable with the orthodontist expense, the travel expense and the future dental expense. If Michael has insurance that will cover part of the dental that would be welcomed. Our only concern is that Jake be allowed to travel back-and-forth for timely appointments. There didn’t seem to be a problem when they were in New Orleans, only after the move to Tulsa. In the past we’ve been able to schedule them for non-school days so he hasn’t had to miss school.
Thanks also for the ethical approach and not the name calling and outright lies of Paul and company.
-Nancy Hawkinson
And his reply:
-----Original Message----- From: Wm. J. Radosevich [mailto:xllaw@hotmail.com] Sent: Wednesday, August 23, 2006 5:50 PM To: nhawk@spacestar.net Subject: RE: Kari Wilson
Dear Nancy,
Thank you for your kind note. These type of cases are always difficult, and
this one unfortunately was no exception. The Court is aware of and
acknowledge the tremendous good work and progress which Kari has made the
last couple of years, and the Court heard the testimony of Lynn Jermal who
spoke eloquently of Kari's energy, intelligence, organizational and
leadership skills testify that she personally misses not having Kari on
campus. It was a very personal statement, which also included her
observations of Kari working with the children and having a special
relationship and bond with them.
As I indicated to Kari at the start of these proceedings, the Family Court
Commissioner, as do the other three Circuit Court Judges, place great weight
and reliance upon the report of the Guardian ad Litem. Unfortunately, the
Guardian ad Litem issued a negative preliminary report, unfairly in my
opinion, and maintained some general hostility throughout the proceedings.
In the final analysis, it appears that the Guardian ad Litem and Court
Commissioner were faced with a choice which could be summarized as between
the mother who presented extraordinary strong parenting skills but with the
past history and the father who exhibited less than normal parenting skills
and involvement but was consistent, and neither the Guardian ad Litem or
Commissioner were willing to take a "risk".
In any event, I do believe that Karine made the right choice at this time to
pursue her masters degree which will make her financially independent and
will solidify her future and I wish her all the best.
Sincerely,
Bill Radosevich
- - -
Paul lived with us off-and-on for a period of about five years in the early 1990's, never paid rent or contributed in any other way. He didn't change diapers, wouldn't carry out the diaper pail (even when asked) and didn't graduate from high school simply because he didn't attend classes. He had the opporunity, not the motivation. When he cooked, for himself and sometimes Kari, he left the kitchen a total mess. I don't recall him ever washing a dish or wiping off a counter after himself. He used the baby formula (Similac) in his cream sauces.
Paul always finds someone to blame -- no matter what, it was always someone elses fault that he didn't succeed. Example, court in Aug 2006: why did he lose his job at the Summit Club? Paul's version, "I found out that some of the guys were stealing and told on them so they fired me". The Summit Club's version, "Poor performance". What did he tell Jake? "I was so good the other guys were jealous and said bad things about me."
When Dr. Kari Campbell, a peditrican recommended diet changes for J-F-E, his response, "I'm a chef. I know what to cook."
FA few incidents . . .
They were living on First St. and Kari was working at the J-R Ranch Motel - she called to have me pick her up there and get the kids from the babysitter. Paul wasn’t answering the phone. When we got to their house Paul was sitting on the couch in his underwear, watching TV or playing a game, with the phone on the couch beside him unplugged. This was shortly before the divorce.
Ford wasn't old enough to remember, Jake may remember it. When Elaine was born Kari called me from the hospital in Tulsa. I was at work at State Farm. She was crying. Paul had left both Ford and Jake with her at the hospital and both were vomiting. Ford was in diapers, and she had a brand new baby. Some dad. Some husband.
When Ford was 6 or 7 months old Paul asked me to watch Ford while he ran errands. He took Jake with him and went to Tulsa. Kari was at work. A week or two later Kari had to wire him money to bring Jake back.
November 2000 - when Paul came to Wisconsin to get J-F-E.
I had no knowledge of what was going to take place. No conversations with Paul (or Kari) about it. Matt Butler said something to Art that made him suspicious. This was the preceding Friday evening. I was at work. I was unable to contact anyone on the weekend who knew or would tell me anything. I kept the children home from school on Monday and verified with the attorney (Bill) that Paul & Pam were indeed going to pick up the children that day. I believe their intent was to take them from school. This was while Kari was in a treatment program at Cumberland. Kari and the children had been staying with us since June when she left Matt. Kari called me two days later to tell me she was in Tulsa and to give me a contact phone number.
Paul asked me, more than once, to turn his father, Don, into the IRS for income tax evasion. This was while he was living with us.
Kari told me about the time she was helping Paul and Dave install a security system in a restaurant. They connected the devices closest to the monitoring system but in the rest of the area they installed the ceiling modules with no wires running to them. Apparently it wasn't the first time Paul & Dave had installed systems that way.
and I could go on and on but I think this probably enough. It's not meant to be published but does need to be recorded somewhere.
I'm writing this because there may come a time when Jake, Ford or Elaine will want to know more about the sorid picture their father attempted to portry of our family, and their mother in particular, not only in Family Court in August 2006, but with what he's told them over the years.
Your mother is not and never was a prostitute or a drug addict -- she did not live with your grandmother Pam, with Paul and Michael, or with a drug dealer, and did not work as a topless bartender -- all things your father said in Family Court (Aug 2006). It was Paul who was smoking marijuana when we knew him.
Although Ford told the GAL and the psychologist (Pat) about three separate incidents where Michael hit him and/or pulled his hair, Michael stated under oath she had never done those things, "Ford may have gotten in the way when I swung my arms one time . . . "
Here is a copy of an email I sent to Bill Radosevich following the Family Court case:
-----Original Message----- From: Nancy Hawkinson [mailto:nhawk@spacestar.net] Sent: Sunday, August 20, 2006 7:53 AM To: Bill Radosevich Subject: Kari Wilson
Bill, we want to thank you for everything you did to help Kari this summer. Though she may have lost technically, if Paul becomes more involved with the kids, it’s a win situation for them, and hopefully her time with them will also be less stressful.
I really believe she would have stayed here if she had received custody. We had talked about my decision to forgo a four year college scholarship to help my parents. I told her though there were times I had some regrets I would do the same thing again.
She left last evening for Kentucky - her grad school advisor is aware of why she is late.
Regarding the orthodontist - when we made the commitment for Jake’s orthodontic work it was with the knowledge that neither Kari nor Paul & Michael would be able to contribute. We’re comfortable with the orthodontist expense, the travel expense and the future dental expense. If Michael has insurance that will cover part of the dental that would be welcomed. Our only concern is that Jake be allowed to travel back-and-forth for timely appointments. There didn’t seem to be a problem when they were in New Orleans, only after the move to Tulsa. In the past we’ve been able to schedule them for non-school days so he hasn’t had to miss school.
Thanks also for the ethical approach and not the name calling and outright lies of Paul and company.
-Nancy Hawkinson
And his reply:
-----Original Message----- From: Wm. J. Radosevich [mailto:xllaw@hotmail.com] Sent: Wednesday, August 23, 2006 5:50 PM To: nhawk@spacestar.net Subject: RE: Kari Wilson
Dear Nancy,
Thank you for your kind note. These type of cases are always difficult, and
this one unfortunately was no exception. The Court is aware of and
acknowledge the tremendous good work and progress which Kari has made the
last couple of years, and the Court heard the testimony of Lynn Jermal who
spoke eloquently of Kari's energy, intelligence, organizational and
leadership skills testify that she personally misses not having Kari on
campus. It was a very personal statement, which also included her
observations of Kari working with the children and having a special
relationship and bond with them.
As I indicated to Kari at the start of these proceedings, the Family Court
Commissioner, as do the other three Circuit Court Judges, place great weight
and reliance upon the report of the Guardian ad Litem. Unfortunately, the
Guardian ad Litem issued a negative preliminary report, unfairly in my
opinion, and maintained some general hostility throughout the proceedings.
In the final analysis, it appears that the Guardian ad Litem and Court
Commissioner were faced with a choice which could be summarized as between
the mother who presented extraordinary strong parenting skills but with the
past history and the father who exhibited less than normal parenting skills
and involvement but was consistent, and neither the Guardian ad Litem or
Commissioner were willing to take a "risk".
In any event, I do believe that Karine made the right choice at this time to
pursue her masters degree which will make her financially independent and
will solidify her future and I wish her all the best.
Sincerely,
Bill Radosevich
- - -
Paul lived with us off-and-on for a period of about five years in the early 1990's, never paid rent or contributed in any other way. He didn't change diapers, wouldn't carry out the diaper pail (even when asked) and didn't graduate from high school simply because he didn't attend classes. He had the opporunity, not the motivation. When he cooked, for himself and sometimes Kari, he left the kitchen a total mess. I don't recall him ever washing a dish or wiping off a counter after himself. He used the baby formula (Similac) in his cream sauces.
Paul always finds someone to blame -- no matter what, it was always someone elses fault that he didn't succeed. Example, court in Aug 2006: why did he lose his job at the Summit Club? Paul's version, "I found out that some of the guys were stealing and told on them so they fired me". The Summit Club's version, "Poor performance". What did he tell Jake? "I was so good the other guys were jealous and said bad things about me."
When Dr. Kari Campbell, a peditrican recommended diet changes for J-F-E, his response, "I'm a chef. I know what to cook."
FA few incidents . . .
They were living on First St. and Kari was working at the J-R Ranch Motel - she called to have me pick her up there and get the kids from the babysitter. Paul wasn’t answering the phone. When we got to their house Paul was sitting on the couch in his underwear, watching TV or playing a game, with the phone on the couch beside him unplugged. This was shortly before the divorce.
Ford wasn't old enough to remember, Jake may remember it. When Elaine was born Kari called me from the hospital in Tulsa. I was at work at State Farm. She was crying. Paul had left both Ford and Jake with her at the hospital and both were vomiting. Ford was in diapers, and she had a brand new baby. Some dad. Some husband.
When Ford was 6 or 7 months old Paul asked me to watch Ford while he ran errands. He took Jake with him and went to Tulsa. Kari was at work. A week or two later Kari had to wire him money to bring Jake back.
November 2000 - when Paul came to Wisconsin to get J-F-E.
I had no knowledge of what was going to take place. No conversations with Paul (or Kari) about it. Matt Butler said something to Art that made him suspicious. This was the preceding Friday evening. I was at work. I was unable to contact anyone on the weekend who knew or would tell me anything. I kept the children home from school on Monday and verified with the attorney (Bill) that Paul & Pam were indeed going to pick up the children that day. I believe their intent was to take them from school. This was while Kari was in a treatment program at Cumberland. Kari and the children had been staying with us since June when she left Matt. Kari called me two days later to tell me she was in Tulsa and to give me a contact phone number.
Paul asked me, more than once, to turn his father, Don, into the IRS for income tax evasion. This was while he was living with us.
Kari told me about the time she was helping Paul and Dave install a security system in a restaurant. They connected the devices closest to the monitoring system but in the rest of the area they installed the ceiling modules with no wires running to them. Apparently it wasn't the first time Paul & Dave had installed systems that way.
and I could go on and on but I think this probably enough. It's not meant to be published but does need to be recorded somewhere.
Events
| Birth | 9 Dec 1972 | La Mirada, Los Angeles, CA | |||
| Marriage | 16 Apr 1994 | Hudson, St.Croix, Wis., St.Patrick's - Karine Marie Hawkinson | |||
| Marriage | Sep 2001 | New Orleans LA - Michael Harmes | |||
| Divorce | Karine Marie Hawkinson |
Families
| Spouse | Karine Marie Hawkinson ( - ) |
| Child | Jakob Howard Wilson (1991 - ) |
| Child | Clifford William "Ford" Wilson (1994 - ) |
| Child | Elaine Halla Wilson (1995 - ) |
| Spouse | Michael Harmes (1975 - ) |
| Child | Mia Eileen Wilson (2002 - ) |
| Child | Wesley Wilson (2006 - ) |
| Child | Sophia Wilson (2008 - ) |
| Father | Don Howard Wilson (1946 - ) |
| Mother | Pamela Jo Robbins (1952 - ) |
| Sibling | Bethany Dawn Wilson (1977 - ) |