Individual Details

Mary married either Calvin or Daniel Wheaton of Lisle, Broome Co, NY. The other Wheaton name apparently was the name of a grandson.

She is probably buried Arnold-Comstock Cemetery in Fleming, Cayuga Co, NY, but no marker is there.

Her father's estate listed two Wheatons - Calvin and David of Lisle, Broome Co, as heirs, 1848.

I believe Mary's husband was most likely Calvin; he would have remarried since she died in 1832.
Found in Conklin, Broome Co NY in 1850:
Hh 93
Calvin Wheaton, age 50, b. NY as was everyone else in the family.
Rachel, age 46
Caroline, age 13; Mary 9; Margaret 5
part of his family?
Hh 257
Ephraim Wheaton, age 52, b. NY
Jane, age 50
Jeptha, age 24
Hh 258
Topher? Wheaton, age 28, b. NY, a carpenter
Elisabeth, age 25
Albert 5, Julia 2, and Emeline, 6 months

These Wheatons may be kin to Calvin:
1850 Census Lisle, Broome Co NY
Hh 789
George Wheaton, age 37 [all his family b. NY]
Abagail, age 38
John C. 18, Emma J. 16, Helen M. 14, Francis M. 10 [male], Jasper A. Wheaton, age 9, and Abby R. age 1 [the surname was repeated for these last two children as though they were not part of George's children]
Hh 803
Joseph Wheaton, age 62, b. MA
Cyntha, age 59, b. CT
Chester Hoyt, age 26, laborer, b. NY
Daniel Hoyt, age 70, laborer, b. CT
Hh 808
Oliver Wheaton, age 74, b. MA
Ellis, age 68, b. CT [male - apparently no spouse living]
Mary 27, Elizabeth B. 24, and Samantha F. age 18 [all born in NY]
Hh 809
John C. Wheaton, age 45 [all his family born in NY]
Elvira, age 40
Joseph C. 19, Daniel C. 17, and Cyntha, age 7.

In Chenango, Boone Co NY in 1850 was
Andrew J. Wheaton, age 23, b. NY living in a boarding house, a Painter.

On various websites, the wife of Oliver Wheaton is given as Ruth Comstock, daughter of Enoch & Anna Weed Comstock. Ruth born in New Canaan, Fairfield CT, 27 Mar 1777 and died 20 Jan 1811 in Lisle, Broome Co NY.
Oliver & Ruth's son Samuel then married Caroline M. Comstock, daughter of Cephas & Nancy Waring Comstock. Caroline, b. 12 Apr 1812, d. about 1862
The Comstock book confirms these marriages - Cephas Comstock was a son of Enoch so Samuel & Caroline were cousins. This is the Christopher Comstock line.
It is likely Oliver had a second wife after Ruth died in 1811. She is often seen as an "Ellen" but the 1850 census has an Ellis Wheaton, male, born 1782, living with Oliver. Oliver appears to have had no brothers named Ellis and the records of the baptisms of his siblings do not show a birth of a child in 1782, though a daughter was born in 1783. However, there is an Ellis Wheaton, a female and a widow counted in Lisle in 1860 - she was then age 78, b. CT and living in the household of George Adams, age 32, S. Frances age 28 and their baby Mary E. age 1. This would appear to be the Samantha F. Wheaton who was 18 in 1850. It seems that her name really was Ellis, but she female. Likely several of Oliver's children were also hers and she's the second wife. Some records show her as Ellen Comstock but there is no record of her in the Comstock book - the only occurence in the book of Oliver is when he married Ruth Comstock.
Oliver died 4 Nov 1853 in Lisle. He was born 13 Mar 1776 in Berkshire Co MA His father may also have been an Oliver Wheaton
Joseph Wheaton apparently married Cynthia Hoyt, but there is no date - this may be an assumption from his census record.

Found online: The following is apparently the elder Oliver Wheaton:
Wheaton, Oliver
Book B page 240
Administration of the estate of Oliver Wheaton of Lisle, NY was granted to Joanna Wheaton, widow of Oliver Wheaton. His children Philo, John, Josiah, Abby and Silah Wheaton, minors, had Pelatiah Brooks of Lisle appointed guardian by the court June 13, 1822
There is a deed:
Wheaton, Oliver, Jr. from Oliver Wheaton Sept. 10, 1813 Town of Lisle

EAST MAINE CEMETERY (or BUCKS KNOB CEMETERY),
UNION, BROOME COUNTY, NY
Located on East Maine Road Near Broome County Airport
WHEATON, Calvin 26 Apr 1802 (1806 in another place) 22 Jan 1886 shares stone with spouse Rachel
WHEATON, Rachael 25 Nov 1823
WHEATON, Caroline 83y 11-Aug-1919 [born 1836]
WHEATON, Margaret 85y 1-Feb-1930 [born 1845]

Birth	28 May 1809	Adams, Berkshire County, Massachusetts
Death	21 Apr 1832	Cayuga County, New York

Father	Seth Comstock (1773 - 1848)
Mother	Mary "Polly" Arnold (1777 - 1858)
Sibling	Pamelia Comstock (1798 - 1870)
Sibling	Chloe Comstock (1804 - 1840)
Sibling	Daniel Comstock (1806 - 1843)
Sibling	Sarah Comstock (1815 - 1892)